WTF If Private? The Rise of Sexual Openness Online

In recent years, more people have begun sharing their sex lives online, from social media posts to adult content platforms. What was once private is now part of public discourse, reshaping cultural norms and fostering new kinds of connections. For many, sharing is about normalizing sexuality, building community, and reclaiming their personal narratives. I get it because I’m part of that shift myself. My podcast, Digg’n for Bones, dives into adult themes and kink culture, while events like Yes Coach create spaces for people to celebrate themselves openly.

Breaking Taboos and Embracing Empowerment

Sex has long been surrounded by shame, but sharing challenges those outdated ideas. Growing up, a lot of us felt isolated in our desires. For me, discovering pup play and kink spaces after my divorce felt like finding home. That experience is why I write about topics like pet play or male nudity—it’s about helping others feel seen and breaking stigma. Sharing online allows people to express who they truly are, free of judgment.

Building Connection and Community

Online sharing also fosters connection. People want spaces to belong, which is why platforms like Fetlife, OnlyFans, Sniffies and kink forums thrive. Let’s not forget about the oh so sexual side of Twitter/X and BlueSky too. It’s the same reason I host events like Yes Coach—to create spaces where people feel part of something larger. Sharing stories online builds those same bridges, reminding others they aren’t alone.

Monetization and Representation

For many, sharing is also practical. Platforms like OnlyFans allow creators to turn personal expression into financial independence. I’ve seen this firsthand through partnerships with brands like Mr-S Leather and LeatherDaddy Skin Co., where I blend my passion for kink with meaningful work. Sharing isn’t just about exposure—it’s about building something sustainable while supporting representation.

Reclaiming Narratives and Changing Norms

At its core, sharing online is about reclaiming stories. Society still stigmatizes sexuality, especially for queer people and kink communities. By being visible, we challenge those narratives. Growing up, I didn’t see people like me represented anywhere. Now, through my podcast, writing, and events, I get to help change that. Masculinity, for example, isn’t one thing—it’s fluid, empowering, and open to expression.

Conclusion: Showing Up Authentically

Sharing sex lives online is about breaking shame, building connections, and celebrating authenticity. It’s not about oversharing—it’s about saying, This is who I am, and I refuse to hide. For me, that means hosting events, creating content, and telling stories that help others feel seen. By showing up fully as ourselves, we create a more open, accepting world—one story, one event, or one conversation at a time.